Wedding Assignments





Wedding Vow

Why not make your wedding ceremony much more different with your composition of your own wedding vows. Aside from the traditional vows read (and maybe not wholeheartedly felt?) try this vows that really comes from the heart.





Wedding Album Layouts





The Bride


In every wedding, the bride is the center of attention and of course attraction. She must be the most beautiful person in the entire ceremony. Every details of her starting with her wedding dress, her make over, her shoes, everything in fact is centered on her. This is the most important date of her life. A new chapter... a new beginning.

The Wedding Dress

This is a photo of the bride for her renewal of vows with her husband during their silver wedding anniversary. The details of the wedding dress was better viewed and appreciated when it is worn by the bride. Every details has sprang up to life even the creases and folds.

The back of the dress was taken while the it was being laced on. Since all lace ends up being tied it is better to take the picture this way to add more drama to the picture while showing the full details.


Here the dress is very simple with not much beadwork. In order to make it appealing to the eye, the photo was processed to expose its highlights. It showed that a dress even with simple details can really make the bride the center of attraction.

Wedding Assignments

I delved into photography since I was student in college. My interest in this field stemmed from my desire to capture memorable moments in any one's life that has touched me.

My professional experience in this field came much later when I became an official photographer of Couples for Christ. CFC publishes a bi-monthly magazine called Ugnayan which has a circulation of about 50,000 copies distributed worldwide.

In the year 2006, I tried my hands into wedding photography. It was a different kind of experience. On this field I learned how to be one with the couple in cherishing every details, every moments of their very special day. I feel I have to be more creative in capturing every moments and every details on this very important day for the couple. To give every photograph a life of its own to be cherished forever.

I researched on the new trends of photographing weddings. And I was surprised that it has already evolved into something more interesting unlike the ones taken 20 to 30 years ago. At that time, most wedding pictures are more of the portraiture genre. The subjects are posed and then the pictures are taken. Since I spent most of my photographic experience with a magazine and covering events, my interest leaned towards the photojournalism type.

In this type of photography, a photographer has to capture the drama and the candidness of the moment. I prefer to freeze these moments of time as this will bring more memories to cherish.

There are a number of photographers now which are creative. This could have been brought about by the emergence of digital photography. Before, with film, most photographers rely on the processing labs to get the result they wanted. With digital photography, photographers have more gained more control on their intended result. Through the use of computers and certain photo processing softwares, one can unleash his or her creative talents and produce great photographic works.



The photo of the bride's shoes was taken with the objective of showing the details but with a touch of drama. I placed the bride's shoes on the floor beside the bed's side table and near a half opened window where a little sunlight was poring in. The result was very satisfactory as you can see in this photo.






I've learned that the couple who is celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary I'm photographing were religiously inclined and are devout Catholics. So I put a little of religious inclination when I took pictures of them. Here I set the rings over a Bible to signify the importance of the Lord in their lives. I've learned from this experience that a photographer has to build rapport or a closer relationship with his subject to better understand how the event can be composed in its entirety.

The girl in this picture was from the start a bit curious of the shoot. She would be watching us every time and she is a member of the bride's entourage as a flower girl. Curious but shy as every time I will focus the camera on her she would run. I was able to capture this moment when I tried focusing my camera somewhere near her but not directly to her. The suddenly I directed my camera on her and clicked on. The result was so natural and candid.




A very touching moment between the bride and her father while her mother looks on. This is a real moment to be cherished by both.

PRIDE AND PREJUDICE



The line has been drawn.

The inevitable that is bound to happen finally happened and was officially announced last August 1st.

A splinter group of CFC members who have been airing their gripes, founded or unfounded, finally declared their independence from the parent community. Our own community. The community which all of us nurtured to what it is today.

Shall we cry? Shall we mourn why this has to happen to our beloved community?

No I will not cry or mourn, because I have expected this ever since this great divide came up more than three months ago and as every scene of actions and reactions unfolds before me. No I wouldn’t cry or shed any tears that these people whom we regard so highly would cause this break away. Most have already bared their souls to us.

The battle for our hearts and minds has started. Not a few may have already decided which side they will go with, some would say they are still discerning and most will just follow the path where their leaders and friends will tread.
The time has come for us to make a definite stand and to speak if necessary. If you do speak out, it must be sincere and devoid of any sentiments. It is best to keep focused on the lessons and the messages we might learn from this conflict of our leaders. Keep away any thoughts for and against personalities as this will only tend to cause more divisiveness, more confusions. The time has come to analyze the cause and the effects. The discernment process has begun.
What could have caused this conflict among our leaders? Let’s now look on the issues but I will not touch on the personal attacks and allegations during the cyberwar of sensibilities which are mere distractions.
The allegations about GK veering from the spiritual to the social are just an opening salvo in the great conflict. The GK3 paper raised issues that brought awareness to some of the dangers that could affect our very life and mission. They may be valid and founded, but I firmly believe they could have been resolved within the boardroom. Policies and guidelines could have been issued to assuage any fears. They could be serious. They could be urgent. But these are not serious enough or too urgent that these issues alone could be the cause of the crisis that will divide our community.
Is it the personalities involved, the two main protagonists? No, both have resigned bringing with them another one who took it to himself the responsibility for not being able to resolve the conflict between the two.
So what is it then that could have caused the division? Based on the subsequent events that transpired since January or earlier, even before the resignations ever took place, it is evident that the dirty hands of politics are already at play.
There are two groups espousing different causes. GK and Pro-Life. Work with the poor or culture of life. There was talk of relegating or at worse discarding GK777 and transferring scarce resources (human and financial) to shift the focus to Pro-Life. This was admitted during the first so-called Restoration Prayer Meeting held at the Christ the King Parish Hall last July 13. On the surface there is nothing wrong, both causes deserve our attention. It is true that in both the third world and in the first world the culture of life must be advocated. But I don’t think this issue would be too serious or too urgent to cause the great divide.
Is it our own CFC life and CFC culture? Are there changes in the way we conduct our household meetings? Are our household heads now devoid of any wisdom and anointing? Are our teachings deviating from what we have been accustomed to? No. Everything is still the same CFC as I have known it to be. The same CFC that has helped me nurtures my family to what it is today. The same CFC that taught me how to relate with brothers and sisters.
So, what are they really griping for? I can only feel that there is something more serious other than these two differing causes. It is none other than power. The right for our obedience, our active obedience. The power to sway our obedience according to their whims and caprices.
The real question is, aren’t each one entitled to choose one’s own calling? Aren’t each one entitled to finish the work they have already started, that of caring for the needs of our poor brothers and sisters? We just can not suddenly withdraw or surrender in the midst of hardships the mission we have embarked on. We have to show to the world that we possess the faith to finish the work lest it is not us that will be gravely affected, but that glimmer of hope we helped built in the hearts of the poor.

I now ask everyone that in our discernment process, whose pride is it do we need to satisfy?
But one thing is certain; our definite stand must not allow our community, our mission, our vision, our work with the poor to be prejudiced.
St. Augustine made it very clear in his homage to the martyr and great worker for the poor, St. Lawrence, “nothing is truer, my brothers. The Christians’ great wealth is to be found in the needs of the poor, if we really understand how to make what we possess bear fruit. The poor are always with us. If we entrust our treasures to them, we will not lose them.”

Sense And Sensibilities


All has been quiet these past two days. Is this a reason to rejoice or to be anxious still? Whether this is good or bad omen is still something to be seen. Or is it the lull before the storm in a manner of speaking? The war of sensibilities almost went out of control, but at least their souls were bared to us all. The recent exchanges of emails showed only one thing and it is clear that almost everyone involved is harboring resentment. Rightly or wrongly, I will stand by my observation.

This conflict has touched not my sensibilities but my inner senses. It opened new doors of understanding. New perceptions regarding the community we love and the persons who may have touched our lives. Household heads. Unit Heads. Chapter Heads. Sector Heads. Everyone who in one way or the other has trodden the path with us, directly or indirectly. This conflict brought my feet back to the ground. We are all but human after all. Our leaders are but human. I’m glad that my humanity is restored.

It is this realization that kept my own sensibilities in check. Honestly, I have my own. It gave me time to reflect on my life with the community. I have lived in total obedience to my leaders. Maybe, not blind obedience but total obedience. I attended my household meetings religiously. I attended our MCG meetings often at the expense of the times I would have accorded my family. I attended teachings and formations, believing it will enhance my knowledge of my relationship with the Lord and with my fellows. I obeyed, because my leaders would tell me to.

That was then, when my senses have been conditioned only to obey.

Because of this conflict, I now realized I have to see and learn everything beyond its face value. To be human again. To live with my feet firm on the ground and my eyes fixed on heaven.

This is what Pope Benedict XVI said on his dialogue with 400 priests while he was vacationing in Auronzo di Cadore in Italy recently. The pope told his flock to be truly man -- "that everyone according to their own gifts and their own charism loves the earth and the beautiful things the Lord has given us, but to also be grateful for the light of God that shines on the earth, that gives splendor and beauty to everything else."

These are priests who are our pastors. And I believe this also goes true with all of us in the community. The pope exhorts everyone to be truly human.

With my newfound humanity, I also reflected on the services I did for the community. I would accept assignments which sometimes are not according to what I wished for or really wanted. But I would still accept the offer because this is what the Lord would want of me as my service head would say then. So I did all of these according to the best of my abilities for God’s glory. I have always praised God for that opportunity to serve Him alone through the community. And on the other side of the spectrum, my human side, is a realization that I did them also for myself because I became comfortable doing it. It gave me joy and fulfillment. I found a purpose for my life. I did it for my brethren who have in need of my services. Without expecting anything in return, except their respect and friendship. That was what life meant to me as a CFC.

CFC I pray must also find its humanity back. To be in fellowship with one another. Men and women who give their respect and friendship to one another, nothing more, nothing less. This is what we must share to the world. Our life. Our fellowship. Our humanized relationship.

Only then can we all be proud to say that we do everything for our God.

SEND NOT THE CLOWNS











I am really amazed with what's going on in the community we all have learned to love.

Honestly, I really love this community which I was made known to believe to be founded on love and Christian relationships. I believed in it because I have experienced it. Without this community, I really do not know how my life will turn out. I do not know if I will have the same relationship that I have now with my wife. I do not know if I will still have the same wonderful relationship with each of my seven children. One of whom is a missionary assigned to a far away country in the Middle East and is married to another missionary. I do not know if I will be able to raise my children as I have been able to because of what I learned from the community we all love. I love Couples for Christ.

My life took a drastic change when I and my wife joined CFC almost seventeen years ago. Here I found friends who will console you when you are down. Friends who will cheer with you when times are good. Friends who go out of their way just to make you feel you are loved.

Now, I'm amazed, nay, I think amused is the right word. I am amused to see people whom I have learned to respect bickering with one another. Amused to see these leaders voice out their differing views of the truth, in the presence of almost everyone. Amused, because they seem to have lost what it means to live as a people of God.

I'm amused to see people take sides and form different factions thus causing division in the community. I am not a fence-sitter. All I want is to hear the truth or the facts. I am here in the community because I believe that it was God who called me to be here. I am not beholden to anyone as CFC should not be beholden to no one. Sadly, I am amused that there are leaders who now seem to not know how to handle conflicts and disagreements.

Have we forgotten to relate with one another, the spirit of our charism which is the basic tenet of our community? Or do we only relate to others if they are within one's household? Or are we only willing to have relations to those who we serve with in any of our ministry, family or social?
How then can we conquer the world for Christ if we are a house divided? Majority of us are not preachers, our knowledge of the bible or of our faith is limited. Haven't we all realized that it is in witnessing that we evangelize? Through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, we were able to show to the world how wonderful it is to relate with one another as brothers and sisters in the faith. This is our strength. CFC’s charisma.

Alas, our strength has become our weakness. The source of the conflict.

If we can not now show how to relate with one another as we used to, then maybe this is the real reason why our membership is going down. Or why the number of members who are going out of the community is increasing.

If we can not build relationships as what we used to, then sadly, we have lost our charisma. CFC has lost its charisma.

Ahh! How sad. I still do not know how I will live in a world without CFC.

Still, I do not need clowns to amuse me.

The Relevance of the Mission




Couples for Christ recently celebrated its 26th year of existence last 24th of June 2007 at the Luneta. Everyone was joyful and cheerful.

Amid the pompous celebration, how many of us took notice of these street children?

The boy could not be more than thirteen years of age and the girl could not be more than ten. Both bore marks and scars on their tender young skins. Signs of their fight for their daily survival. They were dirty, oily, pungent. He had in his hands a small plastic bag containing solvent material, an adhesive more popularly known as Rugby. He or sadly both uses it to get the high. To escape from the adverse realities they face each day. Out of curiosity, they joined us in the celebration.

They were there amongst us. Not to celebrate with us, but to scrounge for food or beg for anything that will help them survive for the day.

If we will only stop and pause for a while, it will be clear that they are the reason why our community must also survive. They are the reason that makes us relevant. A purpose for our lives. Our mission.

In spite of life's adversities, of hungers and disappointments, the little girl can still show us how to smile. A true child of innocence.

“Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” (Mathew 19:14)